When a one or more partners in a relationship struggle with the question; do we make it work, break up or decide later – then Discernment Counseling is for you. Learn how this process works even if only one person in the relationship is willing to participate. The goal is NOT to solve your relationship… Read more The post What is Discernment Counseling? appeared first on The AngerCoach.

45 year old John terrorized his family when they were his passengers. He would yell at them if they complained about his driving. He would ignore them when they showed signs of discomfort and even seemed to enjoy scaring his passengers with his maneuvers such as tailgating, weaving in and out of traffic, passing other… Read more The post How to deal with difficult people coping with the aggressive driver when he is a loved one appeared first on The AngerCoach.

Case #1: Jeanette and Tom had been married 15 years. Wanting to surprise him for his birthday, Jeanette bought (with her own money) Tom a big-screen LCD television. Tom’s reaction? He instantly blew up and berated Jeanette for spending so much money, buying more television than they needed, and buying a bigger one than they… Read more The post Diffuse family anger by talking differently — to yourself! appeared first on The AngerCoach.

Rudy and Marjorie were on the verge of divorce. Married 12 years, they had constant verbal battles ending in what therapists call emotional disengagement— meaning that they simply ignored each other for days on end. Emotionally, they were simmering inside and also lonely for each other, but were unable to reach out and communicate these… Read more The post Six tools to repair emotional damage in your marriage appeared first on The AngerCoach.

Thirty-two year old Elizabeth cried during her anger management class as she related how one year ago her 19-month-old girl was permanently brain-damaged as the result of medical error at the hospital in which she was delivered. She definitely had a legitimate grievance toward the hospital and the medical staff and felt that she could… Read more The post How to control anger by forgiving grievances appeared first on The AngerCoach.

Beth and Tom were happily married for over 25 years— no small feat in today’s world. At first, their friends could not understand how their marriage succeeded, due to numerous perceived shortcomings. However, closer scrutiny of their marriage revealed that it was their thinking patterns—the ways they explained and interpreted their partner’s behavior to themselves—that… Read more The post How optimism can help—or hurt—your marriage appeared first on The AngerCoach.

Sixty-four year old Bill was a married retired executive who sought anger management help on the insistence of his wife Ann. After 24 years Ann could no longer tolerate his bullying behavior toward her, their children, and their friends. He would often relate in an insulting, “get in your face” way using a loud, intimidating… Read more The post How to deal with an adult bully appeared first on The AngerCoach.

Tom and Mary have been married for 10 years. Both are employed. Let’s listen in on an angry conversation they are having in their kitchen while making dinner: (curtain up) Mary: Would it have killed you to stop off on your way home to buy me some Valentine flowers? Tom: You should have seen the… Read more The post How to be less angry in your marriage – Tips on how to become allies around issues appeared first on The AngerCoach.

The Science of a Child’s Tantrums – How to manage before it starts LeAnne Simpson’s 6-year-old daughter had thrown plenty of tantrums before the pandemic. But after a few weeks of lockdown, minor frustrations that used to lead to short-lived outbursts were now setting off writhing-on-the-floor freakouts. “First, she’d get so frustrated she couldn’t talk,” Simpson said…. Read more The post Anger management of your child’s tantrums at home during Covid Pandemic appeared first on The AngerCoach.

Dr Tony Fiore was recently interviewed by David Riklan at SelfGrowth.com. During this 30 minute interview David and Tony discuss many topics that affect emotions and the expression of anger in many people today. The post Anger management in the time of COVID: Dr Tony interviewed on SelfGrowth.com appeared first on The AngerCoach.

“Dr. Fiore,” the voice on the phone pleaded, “I need anger management classes right away. I blew up at my girlfriend last night and she said it’s over until I get help”. As Kevin recounted the first night of class, he and his girlfriend had argued in the car over which route to take home… Read more The post The high costs of anger – Anger and your relationships appeared first on The AngerCoach.

“Dr. Fiore,” my 42 year old married patient (Mary) began, “my family expects me again this year to host Christmas dinner and I am just too exhausted; what should I do?”“Why not tell them how you feel,” I suggested.“Because I don’t want to hurt their feelings and I feel guilty if I don’t do what… Read more The post Control family anger with assertive communication appeared first on The AngerCoach.

In situations like that, women often feel justified in being angry, frustrated and fatigued—and verbally expressing their discontent. But, wives are not justified in verbally abusing their husbands to get them to do more. Assertive communication The right way to get your husband to help around the house involves teaching wives a better way to communicate and motivate… Read more The post Is it OK for wives to verbally abuse husbands for not helping more around the house? appeared first on The AngerCoach.

A guide for Orange County couples on the brink of divorce Many couples come to me after they’ve tried traditional marriage counseling. They’re usually frustrated and depressed. One of the most common things they say is: “We tried marriage counseling and it didn’t work!”  If you feel this way, you’re not alone. But, as you’ll see,… Read more The post How to Get the Most out of Marriage Counseling appeared first on The AngerCoach.

When a Spouse Doesn’t Want to Have Sex It has been two months since Janet and Mark have had sex. They’re hardly speaking to each other. If you asked Janet about this, she would say that their home has become a battle zone-they fight about every little thing. Janet goes out of her way to… Read more The post What to do if one spouse doesn’t want to have sex appeared first on The AngerCoach.